Mostly comprised of shit that passed through my head and shit I just needed to get off my chest. So peek into my mind, you may be surprised at what you may find.
Two days after his State of the Union address, which in part was to tell everybody "chill the fuck out. I got this!" President Obama went to the annual Republican House of Representatives retreat to square off with them 141 on 1.
That's right! He went into a room full of republicans by himself and let them take their best shots at him. Answered all their questions on health care, jobs, and terrorism among other things and put 'em all in check.
You think George Bush woulda had the balls to do that?
Lock himself in a room full of Democrats (with live TV cameras nonetheless!!! Oh yes President Obama INSISTED that they do this live on TV!!!!), and let them fire away and quiz him? Not even if Jesus had instructed him to would he have had done it.
For almost 90 minutes, President Obama, visibly (and understandably) a lil testy went back and forth with the Republicans adding at one point, "We've got to be careful about what we say about each other sometimes, because it boxes us in in ways that makes it difficult for us to work together because our constituents start believing us," Obama said. "So just a tone of civility instead of slash-and-burn would be helpful."
I'm telling yall. This man is doing politics in a whole new way these people aint never even thought of it. When you come and change the game like this you will meet resistance. They just are not ready.
In the wake of the tragic earthquake in Haiti, Wyclef Jean didnt wait for anyone else. He didnt sit on his thumbs and 'hope' for things to get better. He got the fuck up immediately and went down there to help. Everyone knows 'clef is Haitian and has championed many causes relating to Haiti waaaaay before the 'quake hit.
So in lieu of donating to Red Cross, I, like many others felt as if our precious dollars would do better with a more grassroots organization. Personally I felt like the big boys Red Cross and FEMA fumbled the ball with Katrina so I wasnt all that enthused about donating to them this time. Wyclef hits up his twitter fam and encourages folks to donate to his Yele organization and whattya know? Within hours he's raised HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of dollars. Well the sheer gall of this damn rapper to mobilze people and garner this kinda financial support on his own without some big corporation to help! Who the fuck does he think he is?!?!?!?
So now here comes The Smoking Gun with their "report" on some questionable goings ons with 'clef's Yele's Organization. Okay that's cool. I aint believing that hype but can they investigate FEMA and Red Cross with the contributions made in the wake of Hurricane Katrina and then get back to us?
1. "I'm supposed to be arrogant, pompous and cocky/ You oughta thank God you finally got me/ you ungrateful fucks!" - B-Roc
2. Clearly I've tossed 'modesty' aside for the moment
3. Sometimes I do believe you need to indulge in some ol Nikki Giovanni "Ego Tripping" shit
4. I said it before and it bears repeating : I'm the most modest person ever......but in my head? Oh in my head I'm conceited as shit!
5. You like how I balance modesty and conceit so easily, eh?
6. Tis all a defense mechanism really
7. You can give someone your best advice but at the end of the day....they must walk their own path
8. All you can really do after that is support them as best you can
9. Honestly I'm pretty damn sick about it all but I have to put on my big boy underwear and forge ahead
10. "I cant let you know it/ Pride wont let me show it/ Pretend to be heroic/ That's just one to grow with/ but deep inside a nigga so sick....." - Jay-Z "Song Cry"
11. And this whole "Jay-Z sold his soul to the devil and is satan/the anti-Christ" thing?.......Eh....Not so much
12. I'm all for a good conspiracy theory but I think it all likkle bit much
13. #kanyeshrug
14. Shouts out to Tiff aka @HoneyBiscuits for finally getting down with the twitter get down. And Shaneen and Tam for (possibly) getting back in the swing of things ;)
15. Anyone else glad that the (Bad News) Bears' season has finally been put to rest?
16. Talk about a freggin let down......but with that said....I think with some gelling and a couple key changes (ie. Ron Turner being shown the permanent way out of Chicago, and Lovie falling back on calling the defensive plays) we might could have something next year
17. Before I put my modesty hat back on let me just add..........
18. "No great genius has ever existed without some touch of madness" - Aristotle
19. I may have forgotten to mention this but : I determined some time ago that I am actually a genius
20. MENSA cant tell me shit
21. Hey if I dont believe in my own greatness who the hell will?
22. Okay I think I'm done with my ego schtick now
23. See Les? Your lists are very do-able here. Now get started!
24. The news is literally becoming unbearable to watch. I have to watch in 10 day increments
25. Between mugs trying to blow planes up by setting their drawers on fire, innocent old men being shot in the face, and another student from Fenger being gunned down......
26. *le sigh*
27. "How you gonna have me jealous of myself??? That's some REAL pimpin! Talk about playing with my emotions..." - @AngieWrites
28. #sixwordstories : Ang you really are a Godsend ;)
29. Sorry to put you on blast-ation but the world needs to know about you lol
30. Congratulations on your engagement Kia
31. ......and another one for Black Love!
32. Chellz said I write about Love an awful lot
33. All I could do was chuckle b/c she's right and I have no excuse
34. I really dont want an excuse either.
35. #sixwordideas : "Find Heaven in yourself and God" - Common
36. Speaking of finding God....if you haven't checked out the book "The Shack" it's a must read
37. On the advice of a good friend I'm reading it now and it's eye-opening to say the least
38. Are yall watching the show "Jacksons : Family Dynasty" on A&E?
39. Jermaine! Jermaine! Jermaine! I wanna see him and Tito box so bad so that Tito can whoop his ass good!
40. How do they all fit in the room with him and his ego?
41. And the hair? It's like he uses a combo of crisco, motor oil, vaseline, fatback & blue magic!
42. "If someone puts up a wall it's NOT your job to break through it. Thieves break in. Guests are INVITED in." - K. Mcllwaine
43. "People are unrealistic, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway" - Mother Theresa
44. They say true strength is keeping it together when everyone would understand if you fell apart
46. We were THIS close to not having to take Rush Limbaugh into 2010 with us. Oh well......
47. Happy New Year btw. Here's to a prosperous 2010 and beyond
48. At 11:55pm I put Stevie's "As' on repeat so it was the last song of '09 I heard and the first song of 2010. Then I put on Michael's "Rock With You" and Floetry's "SupaStar" and danced in my drawers in my bedroom
49. Kinda corny, huh? I swear I loved every minute of it
50. "True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked." - Erich Segal
What's the difference between loving someone unconditionally and being outright stupid in regards to the person you love. How closely are they related?
A girl is in love with her male best friend. The guy sorta knows it but...ehhhhhh....he's not really there. He loves her but not quite in the same way. She holds out hope because no one makes her feel like him. She has plenty other suitors but she's only checking for him. In their alone moments, even though they arent intimate, she senses something there. Almost everyone around them knows she's crazy about him and she's not shy in admitting to anyone who asks. She watches him go in and out of relationships hoping he'll snap out of it one day and realize she is who he needs. She's made up her mind that she believes in this love that much that she'll stick around until it's made painfully clear that she's wasting her time....and she's hella-stubborn lol. It's essentially Brandy's "Have You Ever?" played out in real life. We've all seen this story like 50-leven times, right? Unconditional Love or Outright Stupidity?
So while watching "Love Actually" for the eleventy millionth time.....I took note of this song. I just knew it was Mariah singing. Then I got to the end of the movie and the video was a bonus feature. Needless to say that both my manliness and I were shocked to discovered we were jammin to mu'fucking KELLY CLARKSON! After reviewing the man-law handbook I found a small loophole in Chapter 6, Section 4-40c that allowed me to remain a man indeed. Tell me she don't sound like "Vision of Love" Mariah on this shit. Anyways say what you will.....this song is the shit. The lyrics are on point. I'll gladly accept my #latepass
How about in looking shit over I just realized that I only wrote one blog in all of October, and one blog in all of November! Wow....that's a new all-time low.
I wanna say that this here "Misc. Blog 5" is my 489th blog ever on this blogspot. I think I've decided that I wanna have 500 post before the year is over. Now mind you Im very aware of the fact that I will not make that goal if I keep posting at the clip in which I've been posting. However, I feel like this 2 blogs inside 20 mins. shit is a good start, wouldnt you say? Plus I have a couple blogs in my drafts folder here that I need to get back to.
So while it's a bit too early to tell Im gonna call it anyways......"I THINK I GOT MY MOJO BACK BITCHES!!!!"
Be blessed yall.
Teej
PS. How Im call yall bitches, then say be blessed? lol So very contradictory of I.
So I have this crazy idea in my head, right? You ready for this?
Okay so the crazy idea in my head is that I will be able to prosper and realize my full potential career-wise AFTER I find love. Crazy, right?
What I'm coming to find out about myself is that I value love more than anything else in this whole wide world. The love of my family and friends means everything to me. But the one thing I'm missing love-wise is that "special love" between a man and a woman. You know....that "SPECIAL" love when yall get to do it and stuff. Yeah that love.
Now while I'm well familiar with the ever popular mantra of "Money over bitches", and the always classic "Fuck bitches. Get money", and "even 50's slept-on musing of "you hustlin' backwards if you chasin' a bitch, Stupid!/ Chase the paper, they come with the shit", I just never bought it. Sounded good, but didn't feel right. I like money but it comes second to love for me. Besides....you don't take the lyrics in rap music seriously, do you? I sure as hell don't. I'm a leader, not a follower. No sir.....not The Teej. I goes my own lane. And to me it would be waaaay sweeter if I got love then the money.
Billy Dee had said that "Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with." Dammit ain't that the gospel? I mean....I could hit my number tomorrow and be the richest man in the world by next Thursday but what the fuck fun would that be w/o a special someone to take along on the ride? Any chick that I meet after the fact will get the *side eye* because I couldn't be too sure if homegirl is here for me or the dough.
But if I lock my baby in BEFORE it all then I'd know, ya know? Besides...I really have tunnel vision about us building an empire TOGETHER!
Now that would be the sweetest!
PS. Please don't think I'm sitting on my ass and twiddling my thumbs career-wise whilst I wait on love. Trust that I'm making moves. I just think it's something to be said for having someone there and having your back as you take on the world TOGETHER.
1. "You prolly think....I sling dick to these hoes like nunchucks/Well, you can think what you want but/ I think you've been watching too much BET Uncut/ You need to get real and check out my real life/ I ain't a tip-drill, don't care what it smell like.......Yall dont really know me like you think you know me" - Drake f/ Phonte & Elzhi "Think Good Thoughts"
2. This song has been on constant rotation for a minute now
3. Peeps have asked why I keep posting "Yall dont really know me like you think you know me" all over the place
4. Welp...the short answer is I'm feeling misunderstood. Let the facebook pics tell it all I do is go out and surround myself with a bunch of gorgeous women....
5. ....when the truth is Im actually a homebody and it's like the same 7 women are in all the pics lol and they are my good friends and nothing more so obviously.....
6. "Yall dont really know me like you think you know me" lol
7. *steps down from narcissistic soapbox*
8. Still not really sure how/why John Allen Muhammad AKA The DC Sniper got excuted so fast, yet Charles Manson is still chillin on death row
9. There's just something VERY "interesting" about that lil tidbit. Im just sayin......
10. ".....confusion can give way to doubt/ And there are times when I fall short of what I say...Im all about/but at your best, you are love/ You're a positive motivating force within my life" - Isley Bros. "(At Your Best) You Are Love"
11. Most Favorite....I fell short of what I previously said and for that I apologize.
12. You know that above all I am most definitely for you and only want to improve upon your quality of life, and not take away from it or add stress to it
13. .....and you also know (by now) that I can be a bit extra and dramatic with a habit of prematurely jumping off the hypothetical cliff....so work with me, k?
14. Tis a hazard of me caring about you. Remember : Scorpio = Passion
15. See! I am soooo not perfect......I only play perfect on social networking sites lolololol
16. I swear I be in "(these blogs) talking like it's just you and me"
17. Relax. Relate. Release AKA 'Blow that shit out!'
18. "Now that it's all over, what did you really do yesterday that's worth mentioning?" - Coleman Cox
19. Im not sure what language this is that my bbm spellcheck speaks but Ive never seen it before
20. When I typed the word "really" and it suggested that I meant "reales" or "realza"..........the fuck?!?!?
21. Alls Im saying if you're considering getting the H1NI vaccination shot is this.......
22. Presently this country cures for profit. So the same people who give you the shot are the same people that get paid if you're sick. Capiche'?
25. I hate to sound like a C-O-N-spriacy theorist but Im just saying!
26. Dear Sammy Sosa : Skin rejuvenation my ass! Get your life together homie!
27. And what about the new eye color, son? Whats that? Retina rejuventaion!?!?!?!?
28. "You know that's right/ You aint white/ So quit holding ya ass tight/ 'cause you cant pass/ So why you keep trying to pass?/ Wit'cha black ass!" - Ice Cube "Be True To The Game"
29. Shouts out to Dave for FINALLY coming up with the ever elusive 8 min remix of Jodeci's "Forever My Lady" thats he's been telling me about in all the damn near 15 years I've known him
30. I wouldnt be surprised if this fool found time to mix down his own damn version to save face but I digress lol
31. Are there really any words to be said about The Bears right now?
32. 5 interceptions Cutler? And Ron Turner....dont let me catch yo punk ass in the street!
33. Normally I'd never rejoice that anyone is going to jail......
34. ....but in Gucci Mane's case Imma make an exception *does the happy dance*
35. ".......*sigh* and so we wait. Waiting for the next great rapper is almost like waiting for Jesus" - @chiggady
36. "10 pennies won't ever be a dime. Pass THAT along!" - Kai
37. I've decided that the biggest lesson Ive learned in all of '09 is that being nice is some bullshit
38. Im STILL trying to crawl my way out of a hole I dug for myself 2 plus years ago in the name of being "nice" to trife ass people
39. Or maybe singling out "nice" is a bit much......
40. We'll just say I need to practice the power of 'NO' alot more. My apologies in advance if my practicing the power of 'NO' makes me come off as a asshole at some point in time.
41. This abortion stipulation added onto the proposed health care bill is a slippery slope and I just dont like it
42. Damn you Bart Stupak!
43. "I personally figure/ that my Harvard style/ is too deep for you Nursery niggas!" - Lord Finesse
44. You may file that one under #feelingmyself
45. In reading "The 5 Love Languages" I've discovered that my primary love language is "Words of Affirmation"
46. Check out the 5 love languages and see if you can figure what your language is
47. I swear Im a student of this Love shit
48. What is life other love with various other shit mixed in?
49. On with the lesson we go! Mr. Allen it's on you. Take us home......
50. "To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down....." - Woody Allen
So if we were not to count my "goodbye" post on inchicity from 10/2.....Ive pretty much not written a blog for the whole month of October? Wowwwwwww!
I cant even begin to tell you why this is so. It aint like the world has stopped revolving around the sun. It aint like there aint been enough shit happening in the news. I, for whatever reason(s) just havent been moved to write shit.
Maybe becuz I've been on some "treading water" shit for the last couple months I've been too preoccupied to write. At least with inchicity I was SUPPOSED to post every Friday. But now that that's over I can wallow in my valley so to speak. Plus to keep it 100, the last couple months I really struggled to write shit for them.
So anyways....now that Im pretty close to the shore, and I wont have to tread water any longer, maybe I can get back into the swing of things. Lord knows there's enough on my mind. I just need to get it all out.
PS. Did I mention that Im effectively BACK on the overnights 2 twice a week? If anything that definitely lends itself to me writing more. We'll see I guess.....
“What we talkin’ bout real shit or we talkin’ bout rhymes? You talkin’ bout millions or you talking’ bout mine? What we talkin’ bout? Cuz I ain’t got time For what people be talkin’ bout all the time What we talkin’ bout fiction or we talkin bout fact? You talkin’ bout fiction? Hold up pardon my back …..I ain’t talkin’ bout profit. I’m talkin’ bout pain. I’m talkin’ bout despair. I’m talkin’ bout shame. I ain’t talkin’ bout gossip….I’m talkin’ bout real shit. Them people playin’ What is you talkin’ bout? I don’t know what y’all sayin’” - Jay-Z ”What We Talking About?”
I’ve been listening to that song on repeat for the past couple weeks. It sums it all up for me. I’m a little disgruntled with people in general and with pop culture as a whole. Almost everything and everyone seems to spew superficial nonsense to me lately. Where’s the depth yall? Are we are suffice with just staying on the surface?
Maybe I need to lay off the twitter. Between the increasingly ridiculous trending topics, the play by play on all the dumbest tv shows (Frankie & Neffe anyone?), and of course the ever popular ”lemme tell you what Im doing at the club” tweets, maybe twitter has sped up my disdain for pop culture because it serves a big ass sampler platter of it all.
Do I give a shit about Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian? Not really.
What did Beyonce eat for breakfast? Why the fuck would I care?
Is Amber Rose’s ass really real? #kanyeshrug
And then there is the beast of “Reality TV”. How or why did anyone see fit to have crooked ass Tom DeLay on “Dancing With The Stars”? Did the producers know that he had to resign his political seat due to pressure coming down because of his illegal activities? Rod Blagojevich tried to sell a Senate seat yo! That is crazy illegal and immoral, and yet…..he did a fucking media tour!!! Letterman, The View, Larry King, etc. WTF? I wont even go in on “Real Housewives of Atlanta” or “Real and Chance”, let alone “Tiny and Toya” or the aforementioned “Frankie and Neffe”. Have I tuned into any of those shows? Yes but it damn sure aint must see TV for me. I aint Tivo’ing that shit!
Of course Im not calling ANYONE out in particular. We are all guilty of some (or in drastic cases…..ALL) of this shit. Everything in moderation though yall. Do what you do I suppose. Far be it from me to say what works for you personally. Im just voicing my frustration at all this monkeyball shit.
I do realize that I may come off as simply venting here and if that is indeed the case I encourage you to gander up at the title of this blog. No not the title of this particular entry, but the title of the blog as a whole. Case closed.
1. “Ooh child things are gonna get easier/Ooh child things’ll be brighter/ Someday….We’ll get it together and we’ll get it all done/Someday when your head is much lighter/Someday….We’ll walk in the rays of a beautiful sun/Someday when the world is much brighter” - The Five Stairsteps “Ooh Child”
2. BFF that was for you AND me! Be strong love.
3. Tis my blog and I tells the truth in this mug, right? Right!
4. And with that said……Im pretty sure Ive been battling probable mild depression for the last month or two
5. Mood swings, generally feeling down, the not give a fuck-ness, unmotivated to do much, financial stress, lack of a love life and relying on my good friend ‘Ze Likka’ a bit too much about adds up to mild depression I think
6. I dont mean to alarm you….Im okay I promise……it’s just a valley that I must see my way through…I’ll be back up in a minute
7. “My shit always work sometimes!” - Mike Lowery
8. Congrats on your impending wedding Nichelle!
9. Oh how I love love…..*sigh*
10. “….Sometimes love takes a long time/But wait for love and you’re gonna get the chance to love/Wait for love, wait for love..” - Luther Vandross “Wait For Love”
11. Boy I tell you….you interrupt one lil white girl country singer’s acceptance speech and ALL the idiots show their true colors!
12. Granted that it was wack of ‘Ye to do, but is it really THAT serious?
13. Sure we’ve made strides, and despite the President being black, we still got a ways to go……..word to Joe “You Lie!” Wilson!
15. I hate for this list to be melancholy but alas it’s the true emotion of the minute so far be it for me to not roll with it
16. Bare with me here….
17. “I dont know what was said, my baby/I thought that everything was fine…/My days and nights would be a living hell if you go away/So think about the misery that you’re gonna put me though….” - Atlantic Starr “Send For Me”
18. LMAO….I really have to laugh at myself and how extra I can be at times
19. Whatsinever is going on with this here cold shoulder/silent treatment situation I’d shole like for it to be over so that life can return to normal
20. That’s how you know it’s real. At least for me anyways. When something goes wrong and you literally have the sick to your stomach feeling. THE WORST I tell you…..
21. Im sure it’ll all be resolved soon. Our shit is too deep, too strong and too solid for it to not be.
22. Shouts out to Reese and Tina Divina on the completion of their poetry book projects. Click the links and support them yall!
23. On the (not so) low…..Teej is on deck with his poetry book as well
24. And if this is your first time reading me….yes I refer to myself in 3rd person alot
25. I love when my friends win and accomplish their dreams
26. If nothing else Im happy for them and it inspires me
27. "I used to be the little engine that could. Now Im the BIG engine that better!” - John Mayer
28. If that aint the realest shit ever……
29. How they gon play up Serena snapping off on the tennis judge and give it hella coverage but Ive barely heard about Roger Federer doing the same thing
30. Plus these marks act like they never heard of John McEnroe before
31. As big a fool as he usta act Im surprised they even let him near organized tennis events
32. Thank ya Jeezus that the whole Beyonce 1st Baby Daddy thing is over now…..(I think)
33. What a clusterfuck!!! If you didnt know before….you know now that all them blog sites be making up shit and copying off each other
34. Trust yall all woulda knew before now if ANYTHING hadda went down with me and Bey back in the day lol
35. “I cant cope with the pressure/settling for lesser/ the Gods left lessons on my dresser/ so I can bloom and blossom….” - Ghostface Killah “Can It All Be So Simple (Remix)”
36. Gosh this is more melancholy than I wanted it to be
37. It’s almost over though so bare with me…..
38. Someone wrote in my facebook honesty box that they thought I was getting bigheaded
39. How Imma be bigheaded whilst a month and half behind on my rent? Where they do that at?
40. So no anonymous person….trust that Im very far from being bigheaded. I try to never say never but I’ll risk it here….I’ll never be bigheaded. Too many folks around would slap me silly if that were the case
41. Dear Jay Cutler, you’re fucking up! Stop that shit! What….you got Rex’s old locker or something?
42. Actually….Dear Chicago Bears as a whole….we wont tolerate that fuck shit this season, period!
43. “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful. - John Wooden
44. Am I the only one that thinks that maybe Barack is playing too nice with the Repubs as far as this health care issue?
45. Maybe he needs to be on some “Bush/Cheney fuck it shit” and get his agenda done….damn what anyone else gotta say.
46. Errol I know Ive been neglectful of my blog but I think Im back homie!
47. I think I like BP3 and OB4CL2 equally
48. They give me different things but both are dope in their own right
49. Shaneen thanks again for being who you are. And remember…..
50. “…at least I aint on her doorstep yelping her name while butt naked with a peace medallion and snow boots on. Now THAT’S crazy!” - Me
FUCK summer for skipping the Chi this year FUCK Gucci Mane for just simply existing FUCK Mariah for putting Gucci on the remix of ”Obsessed” so that white people will know he exists! FUCK everyone at my job for interrupting me while Im trying to type this out FUCK Chris Brown’s bowtie!
FUCK anyone that doesnt believe that EVERYONE should have health care FUCK a ‘Free such and such’ tshirt campaign for obviously guilty muffoccurs. They are supposed to be for political prisoners and the wrongly accused. Your cousin did that shit and you know it! FUCK Paula Deen for her deep fried butter balls. Oh just fucking shoot us already, why dont you? FUCK stalking and harassing your ex. Push the fuck on dude! FUCK having to suffer through writer’s block
FUCK the crime/homicide rate in the Chi right about now FUCK waking up to the news that MY picture has been wrongly attached to a blog about Bey’s first boyfriend. Im TJ….not Lyndell! F%#K arrogant white males that think they’re entitled to everything just because they’re white males. If yall dont GTFOHWTBS. This aint the 50’s homie! F%#K not being comfortable in your own skin F%#K you if you cant dig what it is that an artist does
F%#K BET for the “Frankie & Neffe” show F%#K every single one of you 1.9 million bastards that tuned in and made “Frankie & Neffe” the highest rated debut in BET history F%#K the fact that apparently this devastating LA fire was set intentionally F%#K the critics who got something to say about ANY and EVERYTHING President Obama does. Can he fucking live already? F%#K people STILL fronting and sweating Mike Vick like he aint already paid enough F%#K the fact that Jon and Kate are even “stars” now
F%#K all these damn invites to become a fan of something on facebook. If I wanna be a fan of something…dammit I will. You aint gotta presure me into it! F%#K Whitney’s botched performance on GMA. Whit you can do better F%#K Pfizer and the rest of the drug companies for being on that bullshit F%#K you if you aint picking up what Im putting down!
An article recently came out on msnbc.com entitled “Marriage Eludes High-Achieving Black Women”. In this article two Yale researchers supposedly crunched some numbers, did some interviews, and came to the conclusion that the more educated and successful sisters became, the less likely they are to get married and have a family if they so choose. Now maybe my c.o.n. spiracy spidey senses are off a bit but I saw so much innuendo and so many disturbing undertones in this article it literally fucked up my whole day. No for real….I was in a pissy mood for the remainder of the day!
They said that single sisters were hesitant to have a child because they didnt wanna seem “ghetto”, but when a single white women has a child she is deemed “liberal”. Also that another reason for this trend is that there arent enough highly educated/accomplished brothers to go around. And the when the brothers are highly educated/accomplished they tend to “outmarry” AKA marry anybody else but a sister.
I know propaganda when I read it dammit!!! Please heed the words of the great Chuck D yall….‘Dont believe the hype’.
“So THEY say we’re running out of time/ We’re running out of water/ We’re running out of light/ There are far too many questions/ and just not enough answers/ And if we keep on asking THEY gon tell US what WE like!” - Solange “6 O’clock Blues”
After reading the article I passed it along to some friends of mine on Twitter expecting everyone to be equally outraged and disgusted. And while no one was in clear agreeance with the article, there were some who were not as disturbed by it as I thought they would/should be. I think somewhere in this big head of mine I kinda expect all my people to be riders and advocates of black love like me. Now granted I could have been a little too moved by the article but what I (think I) found is that alot of my friends are jaded and skeptical of the durabilty of black love. And that to me is heartbreaking.
Could be the eternal optimist in me. Could be the hopeless romantic. But to hear my friends and peers express the doubts that they do as to whether love, and more specifically BLACK love can endure and last was a bit shocking. While I’d never be so dumb as to think people have to share my views on such matters, I think it just kinda hurts to hear some of the (seemingly) nonchalant attitudes about it that I did.
I feel like I should keep reiterating the fact that I very well could have been not reading/interpreting my friends comments clearly because I was literally seeing (and probably reading) red after that taking in that piece of shit article.
I say all that to say….no matter what….hold on to your faith in love. God is love, right? So dont let anyone or anything shake your faith in either. (You like how I backdoored that, dont ya? lol)
And lemme just close with this : I promise you aint a thing in the world that can make me stop believing in love. No matter what ups and downs I go through as far as my love life I am solaced by the fact that I KNOW in the end I will have the type of love and marriage that I have envisioned for myself. This I know for sure….and I hope you believe in yourself enough to know that you’ll get the love that you deserve as well.
She said “I don’t know… This guy seems too nice. I’m suspicious.”
And I go “Well damn cant the brother just be genuinely nice?”
Then she replies “Never came across that before. He gives compliments, he wants to see me. WTF?”
Aint that something? The fact that he DOES give compliments and makes it known to her that he wants to see her makes her pump her brakes and put her guards up?!?!? That leads me to wonder what kinda behavior had she experienced before and began to take for “the norm” if those 2 genuine gestures throw her off course.
In “Cant Get Enough Of Your Love Babe” Barry White has a line that goes “What kinda love is this that you’re giving me?”. I’ve always loved that line. You know you getting some real shit when you gotta step back and examine it like “Hold up! This is some new shit! I aint never been loved like this before! What kinda love did you say this was again?” lol
I cant speak for anyone else but I dont know how NOT to wear my heart on my sleeve. If I’m digging on you, you’ll know it. And most likely everyone around me will know it too.
“Im too old to be fronting what Im feeling/Denzel’n acting like you aint appealing when you are” - Jay Z
So Matou if you’re reading….just know that we arent all the same. Some of us are indeed built differently. Some of us are actually pretty damn good at expressing ourselves. Some of us know how to genuinely compliment a woman. Some of us know how to be attentive. Some of us do in fact mean what we say.
It may seem that we’re far and few in between but we’re around love.
1. “It’s a great day for genocide/ (What’s that?)/ Thats the day all the niggas died/ They killed JFK in ‘63/ so what the fuck you think they’ll do to me?!?!?” - Ice Cube “When Will They Shoot?”
2. Sometimes all this shit makes me wanna revert back to my extra-militant self
3. Got me listening to old Ice Cube, PE and The Coup and shit
4. This Skip Gates fiasco is just getting way outta hand
5. I dont think the “Beer Summit” was of any use since both parties have essentially left the door open to still sue one another
6. I commend President Obama for trying to help but he cant do everything
7. With this being a matter of race and him being…..ya know….black…..and also being…..ya know…..the president I think the presumption of bias on his part is too much
8. The bottom line though is once they were both inside and Gates proved it was his crib that shoulda been the end.
9. I can understand his frustration and mouthing off once inside seeing as though he had just got home from China. Have you any idea of that plane ride and then to come home and hafta deal with this shit?
10. Part of me cant help but wonder if there is a tinsy winsy bit of Gates that is pissed off for being treated like a regular nigga though.
11. On the other hand….I dont think white people will ever fully get it.
12. *cues Rhymefest’s “Angry Black Man On A Elevator”*
13. “My corporate people start bugging when I talk like this/ My corporate thugs be like ‘Nah Hov, talk that shit!’” - Jay-Z “Go Crazy” (Remix)
14. So much for the normal “order” of this list
15. I miss my Johnson girls. I need to get to Nap Town soon
16. What I learned while playing tour guide to my out of town friends is that I need to get out and rediscover my own damn city!
17. Sporadically breaking the day the day monotony of our everyday lives and doing tourist shit in our own cities is very highly recommended
18. Trust that you will be surprised at what you find
19. My friend ‘milah said I’ll never get a girlfriend b/c I stay in my phone too much and it’s draining my inter-personal skills
20. I admit to being bad about my phone but surely Im not THAT bad!
21. It’s not like you’re likely to get the fastest response from me if you tweet me or text me…..
22. ….oh wait, it sorta is….ah well! Get in where ya fit in! lol
23. In case you hadnt heard : Steriod use ran rampant in baseball for a long ass time til about 5 years ago
24. Barry Bonds hit 73 home runs in ONE season yo!!!!!! Come the fuck on!!! 73?!?!!?!?
25. Not to single him out b/c he wasnt the only one but for the life of me…. I dunno why mugs is trying to act all shocked as if this were news
26. Gimme a break…word to Neil Carter!
27. “When you got a girl that takes her time/ you must go with the pace/ You cant mess with her mind/ If she feels the same she’ll let ya know/ Just prepare yourself and be ready to go/ And I hope this message stays in your mind/ cause you almost lost a girl thats right on time/ There’s one more thing you’ve got to know/ Just cool it down/ Stay in controooooool” - New Edition “Cool It Down”
28. So crazy to me how that shit that I sang when I was 7 yrs old can apply to my life as an 31 yr old adult
29. The power of music!
30. “Even though she pays me no attention/ All I wanna do is show her my affection/ Lose myself inside her ebony…/ But she aint even checking for me” - Maxwell “Sumthin’ Sumthin’”
31. I dunno where her head is at. I get the feeling she aint crazy over me like I am over her and well…..that kinda sux
32. Boy I’ll tell you bout me and these dreaming eyes of mine.
33. Alls I can do is continue to adore her. What will be will be I suppose.
34. See it’s stories like THIS make me stay with my argument that people need to test out before being allowed to have kids
35. God bless that little baby……didnt stand a chance. BOTH of the parents were schizophrenic??!!?!?
36. Where they do THAT at!?!!?!?
37. That shit really makes me sad. Makes me feel like….
38. “….and I dont even pray any more at night/ cause I dont think that anyone hears” - Regina Belle “So Many Tears”
39. And then the Burr Oaks shit……..
40. *le sigh*
41. “Every time I turn on the TV/ Somebody’s acting crazy/ If you let it, it’ll drive you crazy/ But Im taking back my power today…./We gotta keep on surviving/ Keeping living our truth and do the best we can do” - India.Arie “There’s Hope”
42. Did I mention that I may flirt a bit becuz (as for now) Im single but as far as Im concerned there’s everyone else and then there is her?
43. He was like ‘Dude she’s wifey material!’, and I was like ‘Nigga I know!!!!’
44. Someone get word to Nick & Mariah to let this one go. They do not wanna go back and forth with dude
45. Here we are at August and ‘SummaTime Chi’ STILL aint really kicked in….but it may be for the best becuz Chicago niggas obviously aint knowing how to act when the weather hits north of 80!
46. Remember yall….any and all shit you go through in this life is temporary and time will prove it to not to matter as much as you originally thought
47. The old folks say Ive been here before. I’s wise I tell ya!
48. This list seems to be pretty dark and melancholy
49. Let’s get some humor in b/c laughter is good for the soul….
50. “I went to Zimbabwe. I know how white people feel in America now; relaxed! Cause when I heard the police car I knew they weren’t coming after me!” - Richard Pryor
1. “And when the groove is dead and gone/ You know that LOVE survives/ so we can rock forever on” - Michael Jackson “Rock With You”
2. God bless Michael, Farrah, Chasity Turner, little Jada Justice, and their families
3. Live your life yall.
4. Go out and find joy. Make your own damn joy if you gotta. Just be joyful!
5. So I think I get that BET was trying to save time by not bothering to go through the nominees before they announced the award winners….but what was up with Jamie Foxx and Ne-Yo performing 3 times each?!?!?!!
6. And as for the BET Awards show overall…..welp I’ll chalk it up to them only having 3 days after Michael’s passing to change it up. Period.
7. Oh and one more thing…..after her performance is it safe to say that Beyonce is slowly but surely changing into the black Barbara Striesand?
8. Artest to the Lakers? If you cant beat ‘em you join ‘em I guess lol
9. It’s gonna be a really different NBA this year folks
10. “…but slip up and shoot the wrong fucking video/ and they think they can market you however that they decide to!’ - Drake “Say What’s Real”
11. And he said that BEFORE the “Best I Ever Had” video fiasco
12. I think dancing to “Bad Mamajama” and “Brickhouse” was pretty appropriate
13. Note To Self : As someone who DOESNT do spicy food, know that wasabi is NOT your friend!
14. So finally, a cool 8 months after the election, they declare Al Franken the winner for Jr. Senator of Minnesota. I thought they were gonna bamboozle him.
15. My LA vacay was the shit!!!
16. The time away from the Hotel Beezy was much needed……..
17. …..but alas I still didn’t get to see ALL my peeps. *sigh* I know too many damn people.
18. What’s it mean that I enjoyed myself at the live music spot with the cover band playing all my favorite 70’s jams waaaaaaay more than DJ So&So playing all the newest shit at Club Anywhere, USA?
19. Im so damn grown up I swear……at times
20. “….they don’t use the ink like me/ Niggas dont even THINK like me!/ Who sees what Im watching? ?!?!?” - Joe Budden “Dumb Out”
21. These international affairs (Cynthia McKinney imprisoned in Israel, Iran, North Korea, etc.) ain’t no joke!
22. Pray for patience, guidance and wisdom for President Obama in having to deal with all this madness
23. Being single but really digging on someone is why the term “between a rock and a hard place” was invented
24. Talk about feeling like you’re walking a tightrope……..
25. I need a rap name….STAT!
26. Go here : http://metasmith.com/?page_id=3 ……buy Meta’s shit. Its good reading, trust!
27. That was fun while it lasted. I suppose it couldn’t last forever. It was what we needed to be at the time and for that I’m grateful
28. Seen any good black love story movies lately?
29. We gotta do better in supporting black cinema yall
30. “God writes a lot of comedy. The trouble is he’s stuck with so many bad actors who dont know how to play funny!” - Mitch Hedberg
“And when the groove is dead and gone/ You know that Love survives/ So we can rock forever…..” - “Rock With You”
To actually be in Los Angeles as all this has went in down is beyond surreal. There really doesnt seem to be sufficient words to say all that should be said. Or perhaps it’s that nothing really needs to be said?
There were singers/entertainers………..and then there was Michael.
Have you any idea of what it’s like to arguably be THE most famous person on the planet for 25 or so years?!?!!? There isnt a continent, let alone country that you can go to and it not be an event. The pressure!
And yet he was still human. Still the quiet and shy kid from Gary, Indiana that loved to sing and dance. It just so happened that he sung and danced exceptionally well. So well that it put him on a global stage that was more demanding of any one person than basic humanity should allow.
Above and beyond anything else, he was an extraordinary human being that contributed great gifts to just about all our lives. And THAT is how he should be remembered. THAT is how I am going to remember him.
“It’s hard to be a spiritual being when shit is shaking what you believe in!” - Talib Kweli
When the bills pile up faster than you can pay them, and your significant other aint acting right for whatever reason, and you cant have a good day at work for crying out loud, and life shows you it’s shitty side……how do you pull through?
Who or what do you believe in that helps you maintain?
I’ve recently had a friend die unexpectedly, and the sibling of a friend succumb to cancer, topped off by falling behind on some bills becuz I tried to help people out, and at times it just seems I cant win for losing! It all just seems a bit too much for any one person to have to shoulder and bear.
But you know what?
I feel pretty good. And while Im not exactly sure that what doesnt kill you makes you stronger (becuz it’s my belief that you may not die, but you can still be pretty fucked up for a long time), I do know that with time ANYTHING is possible. In time, you heal and learn to deal with people’s passing. In time, you’ll catch up on those bills and make arrangements to alleviate the financial burden. In time, you’ll work your way through it. Whatever it is.
I have faith in the Most High, but more importantly I have a supreme faith in ME! No matter what comes my way, I am confident that I will find a way to work through it. Whatever it is.
This life can be the most beautifulest thing in the world, and it can be one tough son of a bitch. Most times it’s usually whichever of the two that you choose. But sometimes good people get a raw deal. And in those moments when the best of the best and the most innocent are dealt seemingly unfair hands what do you do? How do you deal? That answer is up to the individual. You kinda hafta make your own way. No one has ALL the answers. We are all just doing the best we can.
Stating that ‘I wish you’d hurry up and die already’ may strike some as being extremely harsh or even hateful, but when at all possible I try to call a spade a spade so to speak. So yeah….I wish you’d hurry up, keel the fuck over, and croak already.
Now…..you may find yourself asking WHY I feel so strongly and why I hope that you’d permanently STFU. Well, to be quite honest with you, I think you’re asshole.
It’s one thing to have your opinion. But to spew the kind of hateful, non-logical, divisive, vile, and insensitive rhetoric you spew and then hide behind just ‘wanting to maintain America’s values’??!!?!?!? Lemme not even get started on the “values” America was founded on. That’s a whole other blog.
My favorite example of your glowing hypocrisy is the drug thing. Remember that time you had said that “anyone who uses drugs illegally should be dragged onto the street and shot”? Remember? You were there when you said it in case you don’t recall. But then what had happened Rush? Oh that’s right…. It came to light that YOU were struggling with your own illegal drug addiction. Had we taken your advice we should dragged your stank cakey ass in the street and did you Rosewood style!
The fact that you said you hope President Obama fails is just beyond me. Or when you said that Colin Powell endorsed Obama strictly because they are both black? Nevermind all the reasons Powell clearly laid out as to his decision. And then how you were already calling Judge Sotomayor a “reverse racist” damn near before Obama had finished the sentence to officially nominate her for the supreme court? And now with all the backlash, and more importantly the thought that you may not wanna piss everyone off too badly with upcoming 2010 mid-term elections you were forced to retract the “reverse racist” statement.
So Mr. Limbaugh, please be my guest. Go even FURTHER on the right wing. Keep going further and further on that bitch til you fall off of it!
If there truly is an afterlife, I hope you end up skewed on a bar-b approximately 3 inches above one of the many raging fires in hell rotating reeeeeeeeeally slowly!
P.S. When you finally do kick the bucket one sweet day I plan to celebrate your birthday every year……in my own special way
Simply complicated. Moody. Loves people. True Scorpio. Extreme. Fiercely Loyal. Interested in alot. Slightly dyslexic. A smart ass who uses sarcasm as a crutch Possible ADD but I dont care.
I'm just trying to find my way in this big ol world, and at the same time trying to keep my sanity. Shouldnt be too hard, huh?
s and put 'em all in check.
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