You know how in the movie 'Love Jones' when Nina and Darius hit it off, then Nina's ex-fianceé, Marvin tries to come back in the picture? Marvin invites Nina to NY to see if there is truly anything left, and b/c she wanted to inquire about some job possibilities out there she contemplates going. Nina is concerned how this will go over with Darius and Josie recommends that she tell Darius and if he acts the fool that means she "has" him and there is no need to go to NY. However if he tries to play it cool Nina should go and teach "his ass a lesson."
*PAUSE*
(Yo I hate LOVE GAMES! I think we're too grown for that. It was cool in high school but not so much now. People just need to be direct and up front about shit yo. You start playing the love games and shit gets tricky. Use your budnippers people. Nip that shit in the bud, say what you mean, be open and direct and you will be just fine like Mary J.)
Anyways....once Nina decides to follow Josie's advice shit goes haywire and it takes them a year to get it back together! But that's not the point of this blog. And yes I realize that if you aren't familiar with the movie, then all those names and whatnot may confuse you and surely ruin it if you haven't gotten around to seeing it, but you know what? I DON'T CARE! It's one of the best movies EVER and your monkey ass shoulda seen it by now!
Moving along.....
The whole point of this blog is about starting a new relationship. I think it's granted that in between relationships you have "situations" with people that you deal with and all, right? They aren't quite your girl, but yall hang enough for there to be some sort of understanding. Not necessarily on a physical tip, but again there is a understanding. Then you find someone who you start to kick it with and before you know it you are thinking of that person as a possible mate. But what about ol girl that you "see" sometimes? Then there's that "weird period" usually at about the 6 week mark or so when you start thinking "Man things is getting real with Tasha, but how am I gonna shake Lisa?" Anyone feeling me?
And so ladies and gentlemen that's why I'm proposing a 3 month rule!
See with the 3 month rule it is understood that with any new person you begin to see, you have exactly 3 months to completely rid yourself of any "situation" that needs to be disposed of. The start date of the 3 month rule is retroactive to the first time you realized that you and the newbie may have something here. And again that realization usually comes at about the 6 week mark of you two kicking it, so in essence that literally leaves you 1 1/2 months to rid yourself of said "situations", but you know....different strokes for different folks so we'll leave it at 3 months.
After that.....you are just bullshitting and I advise you to stop wasting grown folks' time.
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LOL 3 months is too long for me. I just stop answering the phone when I'm done.
The 3 month rule is what's happening. That...and in my world, it's called the 7-date rule. I need 7-dates before we're talking commitments and what not. I mean, we can do it 7 days straight - or we can do it 7 weeks straight - but yea, I'mma need them 7 dates before we start with all that yin yang.
I actually whole-heartedly agree with you on this one. Now how about using this same rule for sex? What do you think about THAT Teej? LMBO!
i think a 90 day probationary period seems about right, i mean its what you have at any new job...you as well as the employer take 90 days to see if its a "good fit" however it really takes about a good 6 months, studies have shown, to fully acclamate yourself to a job...so i definitely agree with the 3 month trail period, and can say 6 months (another 3) to fully be accalmated...so 3 months of dating (to include others and then after that another 3 monnths to date exclusively before going to the "committment" level...
oh and did i say no sex during that time...
that's my 1 cents...HA
i so agree with the 3-month rule; however, i fear that i may still be a seen as a danger to some since it normally only takes me 3 weeks to KNOW FA SHO what it will/wont be. Dude might actually be tryin to ration his 3 months out to see "what it is" when I have all but issued a verdict. oh well... but yeah, 3 months is LONG ENOUGH.
i need your advice on my most recent post. come by!
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